***My beautiful bloggers!***
This is probably my most personal post to date…
I am not sure what you will make of it but let’s just say
I am in a very strange mood today…
SO…. Without any further hesitation…
Let’s talk about the differences between:
DO NOT confuse LOVE with LUST!
These are 2 very different things…
Great sex is NOT Love… It is LUST and Lust is Lust.
Love is Love and defining it is hard but
If you need to know what Love is and isn’t…
Please click on the link below… Don’t be ashamed,
just remember who taught you what love really is! 🙂
You need to understand the differences before
throwing around the L word, especially during sex!
In my opinion you should NEVER tell anyone you love them
during the Act of sex… If it’s real, say it to their face,
in a non sexual environment, when they least expect it!
“Let’s talk about sex baby!”
There are 4 ways of having sex in my opinion:
Making love =
Strong feelings of love are flowing throughout,
it can heighten your sensations and passion and can connect your souls.
Making love is a selfless act of pleasing each other.
Sometimes making love requires sacrifice.
It takes sex to a level of Art as opposed to the kinky dirty side of it.
I associate this type of sex with nakedness, no clothes, no shoes.
Making love is more emotionally fulfilling, it can be very beautiful and extremely exhilarating
when you are both very much in love with each other.
The kind where you feel as though your bodies are one,
you have extreme levels of comfort in each other and find a deep happiness
and satisfaction from making love to each other.
“Our sex is as beautiful as the best Art when painted on a Canvas!”
No strings attached, feelings are disconnected, fueled by lust and raging sexual tension.
Horny as hell, usually a strong sexual chemistry is present but this is the
only connection you both have to each other.
This type of sex can be selfish and dangerous when it is based on casual encounters
as often one person (sometimes both) catch feelings that revert to Making Love,
which can lead to hurt and confusion when the feelings are not mutual.
To one person its:
“Hey… We are only fucking, remember that! I am not looking
for a relationship, it is what it is!”
This can be very hard for anyone to deal with.
That is why when you have yourself a “sex buddy” you better make sure you understand
exactly where it is going and of course when it needs to end.
TIP: Set rules and boundaries in order to protect yourself and for the other person to never
get too comfortable with being with you in this way.
There is always a risk of someone meeting a new person or getting
back with an ex… In which case as much as it may hurt , to them you might just
be a “bit of fun” and you may not be taken seriously.
“Sex buddy’s” can be really fun especially if you have just come out of
a long-term relationship and just want the sex without the stresses
that some relationships can bring, but be prepared for the consequences
if things go a bit too far for your liking, this is not something to
be ever kept on a permanent basis unless extreme mutual trust is present.
TIP: Never a good idea for the more emotionally set people to have “sex buddy’s” as they are likely
to end up getting hurt. My advice is to get yourself over to Ann Summers and buy
some toy’s and DIY for a while. There is a sale on, so make the most of it! 🙂
Plus, in my experience, there are very few men that have ever made me orgasm
the way a vibrator can. So it can be great for you if your sex drive is like mine,
I advise DIY until Mr or Miss “Everything you’ve been looking for!” does come along.
Men, there are toy’s for you too as you must know… Although I find it hard to talk about…
You know what I am saying… 2 words “Flash Light!”
*DON’T BE A HOE/MANWHORE AND RUIN FUTURE OPPORTUNITIES WITH
GREAT PEOPLE JUST TO GET YOUR “LEG OVER”!*
As always it is a risk you take with these kind of encounters.
Just dirty, filthy, nasty and extremely pleasurable for the both of you.
“My body is a movie and your penis is the star!”
Making FUCKING Love =
Something I would say I enjoy the MOST as it represents both fucking and
making love, the love is there and the feelings are strong. This is for the naughtiest/wilder of the sexes.
The couples that are more open-minded in how they express their love during sex.
They may introduce all kinds of toys and sexy lingerie to make their love-making a bit more spicy.
This is probably the category I fall under. I love sex whereas some women/men are not
actually that bothered about sex and all it has to offer. I think that this is the
definitely the most pleasurable of the 4 in my opinion and the most fun!
Although saying that a real genuine Love Making Session can be just what you need after a long hard
day as you really need to be “in the mood” sometimes for the excitement this kind of sex brings.
“I love you so fucking much… Fuck me!”
Just sex =
You are doing it for the sake of it, whether you love the person or not,
your heart is not really involved, it has become more routine then pleasure.
Usually one person is enjoying it more than the other or sometimes
it is just one person who initiates it and the partner just goes along with it,
to avoid disappointing, instead of being significantly involved in the pleasure during…
The “blow up doll” effect is what I call it, she just lays there not really
giving a fuck about what is going on, or he just lays there and lets
her do all the work… Basically just crap sex!
Nobody needs this shit… It’s better to DIY then endure this kind of sex.
Sometimes it only takes a few bad sessions for unnecessary doubt to
start creeping in to your sex life. Sex is a luxury and as they say:
*TO MUCH OF ANYTHING IS GOOD FOR… ?
That is right! You got it… Remember that!
So I am sure you all get my drift!
“Erm, it was good yeah… I am just really tired… That’s all!”
So tell me…
What category do you fall into?
If you are brave enough to share of course! 🙂
Even if you don’t fall into a category, if you can be honest with
yourself, me and others, what do you enjoy most?
Remember, there is NO right answer.
We are all very different and individual people in this big world.
We have different tastes and get our kicks different ways.
Also life and love, heartbreak and bad experiences will also
change the way many of us answer a question like this.
YOLO – YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE!
I hope you enjoyed the read, even if you do not share…
As I said I was in a bit of a strange mood whilst writing this…
But I still felt I needed to write, so i did!
So I apologize if I touch any nerves or offend anyone with this post!
That is all on Lust & Love for now…